How to Hone Your Personal Style

Jun 29, 2022STYLE

Green Jacket, Black Tunic, Jeans and Crossbody Bag -

After 50+ trips around the sun, I’ve honed my personal style a few times over. Back in the day, I wore my fair share of LBD’s and heels. But, my new version of LBD is laid back and done. I’ve honed a current personal style that’s a true reflection of me. And you can, too. 


There are times I’ve looked at my wardrobe and thought, meh. When my looks feel stale, I make time to empty my closet. I try on every piece and create three piles: keep, sell and donate

If my first reaction is negative, it’s donated or sold. When I’ve created a collection of coordinated keepers, I take photos so I can recreate the looks on the fly. This makes getting dressed super easy. No more heaps of tried-on clothes crumpled on the floor. No more frustration. No more tears.

I can’t emphasize how important it is to get rid of the clothes that don’t fit or feel good. When I styled clients, they contorted every which way to keep clothes they disliked. I heard it all. “I spent too much money to get rid of it.” “I’ll fit into it someday.” “My mother-in-law gave it to me, she’ll be upset if I don’t keep it.” When you create these excuses, you fail to acknowledge the negative mindset attached to pieces that do not serve you. 

When you see the too-small dress hanging in the closet, negative self-talk says you’re overweight. That yellow top that washes you out? Critical self-talk convinces you that you’re too pale. The sweater your mother-in-law gifted that looks just like her? It tells you she doesn’t know you at all. 

You must release the negativity tethered to each of these pieces. Sell the like-new clothes on Poshmark. Donate gently used pieces to Vietnam Veterans of America. Consider it a soulful and stylistic metamorphosis — a recalibration.

“When clothes don’t fit trash them, not you.”

—Mel Robbins


So, is your current wardrobe a true reflection of you? Step into your closet. Place your hands on each piece you own. And ask yourself the following five questions:

1.  Does this reflect my personality?

2.  Does this fit?

3.  How does this fabric make me feel?

4.  Does this color jive with my complexion?

5.  Does this pattern compliment my frame?

Don’t freak out if your donate and sell piles are larger than your keep pile. You don’t need that many clothes. Research shows most of us wear 20% of our wardrobe 80% of the time. Why not eliminate the 80% we never wear? It’s clutter, noise — complete nonsense.

Having a minimal collection of clothes that feels and looks great avoids stress. Everything can be easily mixed and matched. All the pieces are front and center. Nothing gets buried and lost. Here are a few of my personal faves:

Black Outfit with Puff Sleeve Tee, Jeans and Evil Eye Clutch -

Top – Halogen

Jeans – Hudson

Clutch – Aldo

Personal Style - Sun Hat, Oui Tee, Linen Pants - Julie Pedraza

Oui Tee – Etsy

Linen Pants – Zara

Hat – Etsy

Black Monochromatic Style - Julie Pedraza

Jacket – Sun Rider

Top – Anthropologie

Jeans – Hudson

Tunic Tee with Jeans -

Tunic – Natural Life

Jeans – Hudson

Earrings – Vintage, My Grandmother’s

Black Shawl, Zodiac Tee, Jeans -

Shawl – Vintage

Zodiac Tee – Etsy

Jeans – Hudson


Chambray Shirt, Linen Pants, Chloe Bag -

Chambray Shirt – So

Linen Pants – Zara

Bag – Chloe

“A woman is never sexier than when she is comfortable in her clothes.”

—Vera Wang

Honing your personal style can be a simplified and rewarding experience. By keeping the clothes that fit, are comfortable and compliment your complexion and frame, you’ll always feel good inside and out.
*Feature Image: Carlisle Jacket, Lush Tunic, Hudson Jeans, World Market Crossbody

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