3 Steps to Improve Your Well-Being
We say we want peace of mind, but what we want is peace from mind. No technique of the mind will free you from the mind. All chases are attempts to escape from the mind. Meditation is the direct path in an age of mental gluttony. It is fasting for the mind.
Before paying a therapist to listen to you, listen to yourself. Before clearing your inbox, clear your mind. The sky rains when clouds are heavy. The body sleeps when the limbs tire. And meditation arrives when the mind is calm.
Prepare for meditation by sitting with eyes closed and back upright. Sixty minutes are easier than thirty, as it takes time for the mind to settle down. Sixty consecutive days are necessary as it takes time for the body to go from unfit to fit.
Realize at this moment, you are the only person in the world and there is no one to instruct you, praise you, or judge you. Make no effort for or against anything. Whatever happens, happens. Surrender to yourself in the moment. Resist nothing and reject nothing—including the urge to resist and reject. Meditation is not going through thoughts, but rather letting thoughts go through you. The thought “I am meditating” is also a thought.
Meditation isn’t holy or spiritual or magical. It’s nothing. It requires no mantra, no chakras, no Buddhas, no music, no gadgets, and no apps.
There are many meditation methods, but “no effort” is the universal method. Every creature at all times can choose to do nothing. There’s no need to get up to record a thought. If the idea was good, it’ll come back. If it doesn’t come back, it wasn’t that good.
Meditation is a single player game. There is no point in comparing to other meditators or to even your own previous meditations. If meditation was easy, you’d do nothing else. The point of meditation is not to become “a meditator”—in reality, there’s no such thing. If it doesn’t bring lasting and effortless change, drop it before it becomes another struggle.
There is nothing to say and nothing to offer. No one is taking you anywhere, selling you anything, or making you promises. Reading or talking about meditation will do nothing for you. You cannot fail at meditation. Meditation is good for nothing. That’s why you do it.
The closer you get to the truth, the more silent you become inside. The ability to be content and at peace, by yourself, is freedom.”
3 STEPS TO WELL-BEING
These are 3 steps to well-being that calm the mind and encourage positivity.
Limit the News. The truth is, our psyche isn’t designed for 24/7 cable news. The news we consume in the U.S. is divisive. This manipulates our brains and emotions towards despair, hopelessness and anger. Limiting our news exposure to no more than thirty minutes per day can improve our well-being.
Limit Social Media. Scientific studies have proven social media actually turns-off our brains. Irrational emotions replaced our critical thinking skills. The only mindful way to use social media is to limit our exposure to it. Psychologists recommend consuming less than thirty minutes of social media per day. The added bonus is more time for reading, writing, fitness, friends and family.
Seek Melatonin. As we age, we lose our sleep hormone, melatonin. You’ve heard of melatonin pills, but are you familiar with melatonin au naturel? Our magical bodies can actually create melatonin. All we have to do is look towards the sun for three minutes with our eyes closed. Sunlight releases neurotransmitters, activates our pineal gland, and balances our brain’s chemistry. After what we’ve been through, we could all use some balanced brain chemistry.
“Let it go. Change the channel. Turn it off. Unsubscribe. Unfriend. Unfollow. Mute. Block. Walk away. Breathe.“
There will be studies on the effects this period of time has had on our psyche. The bouts of stress, anxiety and depression we’ve endured is astounding. Kudos to us for not only surviving, but thriving.
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